Trust yourself more in the relationships that matter most.
Individual Therapy for Relationships
In-Person in Prosper & Online Across Texas
You spend so much time trying to understand everyone else’s needs and feelings that you’ve stopped listening to your own.
You’re the emotionally aware one in all your relationships—the one reading the books, trying to communicate better, and doing everything you can to keep things from blowing up. Because you care so deeply, you keep analyzing conversations, looking for what you did wrong: adjusting yourself, smoothing things over, and trying to understand the other person’s side, even when something in you knows they’re not putting in the same effort for you. You avoid conflict whenever possible, and whenever you feel things start to get tense, you over-explain yourself and try to backtrack to safety before the other person shuts down or gets upset.
Over time, that one-sidedness has left you feeling confused, resentful, less sure of what you actually feel or think, and sometimes like you’re going crazy. It’s like you’re standing in the doorway waiting to be let in by the people you love so much, hoping that if you just say things the right way, they’ll finally understand and accept you.
You might be here because you…
Walk away from arguments thinking, “How did that end with me apologizing again?”
Have tried setting boundaries before, but backed off pretty quickly because it felt easier than holding your ground while someone else was upset with you.
Feel like a doormat—pushing down all your thoughts and feelings until they eventually come out sideways or all at once.
Have been told that you need to reach out, show up, and do more, but then when you do you’re made to feel like you’re “too much.”
Think that if all of your relationships are like this, and you’re the common denominator, you must be the problem (cue Taylor Swift).
Realize you have created different versions of yourself in different relationships and it’s draining to keep track of who you need to be for each person in your life—but managing the other person’s feelings always feels more important than being who you are.
You are not “too much” for having needs—and you deserve to have your needs heard.
My Approach
Together, we’ll look at how you’ve been showing up in relationships—and what it would mean to do that differently.
First, let me assure you: you’re not crazy. Relationships are complex, and they’re especially hard when only one party is doing the heavy lifting—which, I’m guessing, you have been. This work doesn’t involve me telling you who to cut off or handing you a script for every hard conversation. Instead, we’ll work to understand the pattern you keep getting pulled into, notice what happens in your nervous system when relationships feel tense or uncertain, and reconnect with your own needs, boundaries, and internal signals so you can honor them and stop tolerating when other people don’t. With this deeper understanding of yourself, you’ll be better able to make choices in relationships that feel true to you and in the best interest of real connection.
In sessions, we will…
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We’ll start by looking closely at what happens for you in moments of relationship stress. That could include conflict, emotional distance, disappointment, or those moments when you try to bring up a difficult topic and feel yourself check out. When we define what you feel at those times, we can begin to see the pattern more clearly instead of only seeing the aftermath.
In some cases, past relationship experiences are still shaping how the nervous system responds to conflict or closeness. If that’s part of your story, I may also use Accelerated Resolution Therapy (ART) to help you get unstuck from those experiences and feel more present.
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From there, we begin looking at the roles you have learned to play in relationships—people-pleasing, over-functioning, taking responsibility for other people’s emotions, or being taught that compromise means self-abandonment. We’ll discern the difference between what belongs to you and what other people have unfairly put on you. Then, we’ll practice sitting with the discomfort of not immediately trying to “fix” things when someone else is upset.
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Together, we’ll work on expressing your needs more clearly, setting and actually holding boundaries, and what to do when someone reacts negatively to these new skills. That doesn’t mean you have to become harder or more detached—but you deserve to take up space in your relationships and be loved for all of who you are. Whether you decide to stay in the relationships that led you here or not, I want you to feel sure of your own feelings and confident in your decisions.
Trust your own perception and internal signals, especially in moments when something feels wrong or unfair.
Notice the early signs of self-abandonment in relationships, including over-functioning, over-explaining, shutting down, or taking blame that’s not yours.
Stop feeling responsible for everyone else’s emotions and reactions, and more comfortable letting them handle those things themselves.
Express your needs and boundaries more clearly, and know you’ll be okay no matter how others respond.
Understand how your nervous system reacts in moments of conflict, and learn how to stay grounded.
Build relationships from a stronger sense of self so relationships feel more balanced and fulfilling.
Specialized therapy for relationships can help you…
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I don’t offer couples therapy. My relationship work is with individual women who are trying to make sense of what’s happening in their relationships, trust their own perception again, and stop losing themselves in the process. If you’re the one carrying the emotional weight, overthinking every interaction, or wondering whether you’re the problem, this work is still very much for you.
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If something feels off in your relationships and you keep talking yourself out of what you know, that’s worth paying attention to. Relationship therapy can be helpful even if you’re not sure whether the relationship is “bad enough” to talk about. Many of the women I work with are stuck in self-doubt, over-explaining, walking on eggshells, or constantly trying to manage the other person’s emotions.
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People-pleasing is more than just being nice. It often looks like saying yes when you mean no, smoothing things over to avoid conflict, apologizing for things that aren’t yours to carry, or adjusting yourself so everyone else stays comfortable. Over time, that can make it really hard to know what you actually feel, need, or want.
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No, that’s not my role. My job is to help you understand the pattern you’re in, get clearer about what feels true for you, and build the self-trust to make decisions that are aligned with your values and wellbeing. Sometimes that leads to stronger boundaries, sometimes it changes how you show up, and sometimes it changes the relationship itself. Sometimes change is scary, I get that. We will walk through it slowly and at a manageable pace—I’ll never rush or force you into something you’re not ready for.
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I’m a Licensed Professional Counselor with training in DBT, CBT, ACT, ART, and somatic work, and I bring all of that into my work with women who are struggling in relationships. A big part of what I help clients work through is people-pleasing, over-functioning, self-doubt, conflict patterns, and the tendency to lose themselves while trying to keep the relationship stable. I use a mind-body approach, so we’re not just talking about what’s happening, we’re also paying attention to how those patterns show up in your nervous system and sense of self.